If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

This is just something I need to remind myself everyday!

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Keeping up

Tonight I will be working on the downstairs area. I am starting in my book room/ creative space. The last two days have been hard. Just staying motivated, is hard. I think the issue is, not having a job right now, and holding the space that one is coming. I am shifting my life, and I feel obstacles in my way. The main one- being myself. I have been doing the work and feeling better each time I do it. So the only thing blocking me emotionally, is me. This is why I am not finishing my room tonight but moving on to my bookshelves, otherwise I don't think I will meet my goal tonight.

The cool thing that happened today is that a letter I wrote myself came today. It has helped me see that I cannot ask anyone to do for me what I am unwilling to do for myself. Change is that and I am changing, so on with it! I hope you all are having a good weekend.

Blessed Be,
HWD

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Henna Hair

I finally did it. I was able to put Henna in my hair yesterday. This is not the first time that I put Henna in but it has been over six months since I have done it. Which had me thinking, why is it so hard for me to manage self care? Over the years I have had burst of girly, girl behavior and loved it. But for some reason it never sticks. I don't know if it is self-esteem issues or what, but I fall back on sweats and t-shirts. Not having a job just adds to it. So yesterday, before I started my hour cleaning I put Henna in and left it in over night. The results are great. I love my hair!

I did all this... because I have an interview tomorrow, and I want to put my best forward. One of my awesome girlfriends/ nail tech extraordinaire will do my nails for me before the interview so I will feel in my power.

This process of change is effecting every area of my life and although it feels strange at times, I keep with it. I want this more than anything!

Blog back and let me know how you take care of yourself!

Have a blessed day,
HWD

Monday, January 4, 2010

Feeling Something New

I don't know about you, but I have a very weird thing that happens when I start to become happy. I get anxiety attacks, and start to believe that something catastrophic is about to happen to me. I had this happen today, it was a mixture of awareness, humor and insight.

Yesterday was wonderful, I was excited about my hour cleaning, I spoke with a manatee( 30 Rock reference) that I have for my coven, and I had a great day with my boys. My ex husband gave me flowers and I applied for three jobs online, my best friend stopped by. It felt, (this is important) it felt great!

Then as I went to bed, I began to itch all over and I did not fall to sleep until 3 or 4 this morning. I woke up feeling guilt and like something bad was going to happen. I went to a negative space and was in a lot of fear. I did do my one hour cleaning and fed myself. This helped.

I kept with the ritual part of it; lighting candles, burning incense and playing music. Usually when I am done I feel much better but not today,so I went to divination. I pulled out my Destiny's Portal deck the reading at first odd, something about letting go and spinning a new web, Whatever!!

But as I sat in front of my altar- like a hush, it hit me. I was experiencing happiness that was authentic and real. It scared me. For many reasons, some truly valid, some- not so much! I am guarded with my spirit. But as I reach for this goal for Imbolic, I see myself changing it is hard for me to identify emotions and give them their proper credit in my life.

Happiness that is not based on anything external, that comes from just being, is difficult for me, in the past, I would have done something to fix it or change the feeling, but not today. I sat with it, explored all my options of possibilities, of outcomes and used the tools at my disposal to uncover the issue.

I am changing, my life is changing. As I close doors I need to be mindful and open to new doors that are in front of me and if I feel the fear to stop and breathe and just know it is my right to be happy!! Now that I know what this feeling is, as it comes about in my healing I will not feel the need to squash or sabotage it. Which is something, something big.

Any of you have any new awareness's lately? I would love to hear them.

blessed be,
HWD

New Movies

So last night I watched Juno and really enjoyed it.

But today after a really, weird day, I watched Lars and the Real Girl. I must say it has earned a spot in my top 5 movies. The way that grief is approached by the writers is ingenious and it is a high recommend.

So ratings as follows:

1. Juno :) liked it a lot

2. Lars and The Real Girl :) :) A must see!!

Blessed Day,
HWD

Sunday, January 3, 2010

New Movies

So confession time. I watch the same movies over and over again, seriously! I have seen Pride and Prejudice over 400 times! I don't know what it is but I find comfort in the familiar and am scared of the unknown. This year is different I will watch a new movie every week. One that I have never seen and that I can deal with. Genres off my list would be: Horror- hate being scared on purpose. Any movie with gratuitous violence against women or children, learned that with the movie 'Taken', could not sleep for two days. So far I have watched three new movies and loved them, I don't feel qualified to give reviews but will make some type of code to show how I felt about them. I have watched:
1. Be Cool- :) Comedy
2. Idiocracy- :) Comedy
3. You Kill Me- :) Comedy

The next movie I want to watch is, 'This is England' That will be my next Saturday movie.
It is a drama about skin heads in the 1980's. It looks amazing!

I hope by the end of the year to have broadened my horizons by 52 movies that is one a week. I don't watch T.V. so I think two hours a week is cool. Some times it may be more. If you have any suggestions please post a comment I would love to see what is out there.

Have a blessed Day,
HWD